Fight or Flight

Relationships are complicated. They can be one of the most worthwhile parts of life. Pushing you out of your comfort zone. Giving you the opportunity to devote yourself to someone else, to love and be loved in return. Enabling you to experience a joy you would have never known if not for the other person you're sharing it with.

And then there's the darker parts. The parts we like to pretend don't exist. Arguing about meaningless things. Making mistakes that we swore we never would. Hurting someone who we promised we'd protect. Pushing that person out, pulling ourselves back, and pretending we never felt at all.

Like I said - they're tricky. And when conflicts arise that threaten our relationship, we can either choose to face the danger head-on, or we can run away. So when our relationships challenge us, do we stick around and fight for it to work, or do we accept failure and leave?

Either option is always available, but you have to ask yourself which outcome you'd rather live with. Staying can never be never one-sided. It takes two people to fight for a relationship that's gone wrong, and it won't fix itself over night. And as for leaving - it takes a lot of strength to walk away from something that was once everything to you. Leaving could mean never being able to come back if you change your mind.

Relationships aren't ever going to be easy. There are always going to be up's and down's. If our love was never tested, how could we ever know it's worth? But sometimes things just test us just a little too much and we're left with only two options - fight or flight.

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