There comes a point in every relationship when you realize that either this person is your person, or they're not. If you're like me then you're lucky - because I have truly found my person. The only person who has ever felt right for me in every way. And no, it's not all perfect, it's just exactly what I need.
But that doesn't mean it wasn't an interesting road getting here. There are plenty of people who can hurt you until you find someone who cares enough not to. And it also means there are people who you won't ever be with (if you're doing monogamy the old fashioned way). There are probably some doors you walked by and never knocked on or maybe you did knock, but no one ever answered so you kept walking.
Perhaps it was that friend from class who you so shamelessly flirted with, but they never quite caught on. Or maybe it's that first date that never became a second date so you just stopped texting them back. The point is, there are always going to be those heartbreaks that never happened; those people who were just a faint blip on your radar, but never really became anything more than that.
And even while in a relationship as strong as mine, I can still contemplate those moments that passed me by. And though I never wish to go back or change anything, I can still acknowledge that they happened - that they were there and at one point I almost knocked on that door. (The key is not attaching a "what if" to those thoughts because that's another whole topic, and probably indicates that your search for your person isn't over)
But reflecting on your past can be important because it's gotten you to where you are. I have always been thankful for the heartbreaks I've experienced because I know I wouldn't be the person I am now without them. But I think I feel the same way about those doors that never opened too. Because when I think about where I am now and what helped me get here, those heartbreaks that never happened were just as important as the ones that did.
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