Wednesday, June 3, 2015

She's Caitlyn - Get The Hell Over It

If your son or daughter or any other loved one told you they're meant to be a different gender, they have feelings for people of the same gender, they don't have feelings for either gender, or any other possible feeling they might have that doesn't fit the category of "normal" - would you still love them? Would you still care for them the same way even though you have to define them differently than you did just moments before that conversation? What if you found out they never even had the courage to tell you and lived their whole life feeling uncomfortable in their own skin - or worse, what if they choose they can't live anymore as a result of the discomfort?

I spent my afternoon reading post after post trying to figure out why people really hate Caitlyn Jenner's transformation, her story, or the publicity surrounding it. I came across a few thoughts that simply just don't add up in my mind and I thought they would be worthwhile to address. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, which is why I'm sharing theirs and then giving my two cents.

1. "She's not a hero. Members of the armed forces - now those are heroes."
Hero (n.): a person who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements, or noble qualities. So you're trying to tell me that a person who stands up for gender equality and acceptance by sharing their transformation story after 65 years of feeling like they were stuck in the wrong body and their new-found comfort and confidence in the process is not heroic? I understand that there are men and women who fight every day to protect this nation - my own father risked his life too. But that doesn't make me unable to observe when others are being heroes as well. They don't only wear uniforms and carry weapons - they walk among you and I. They are activists, they are mothers, they are fathers, they are doctors and nurses. Heroes are everywhere. Just because you don't identify someone as your personal hero doesn't mean that they aren't still heroes to someone else. Anyone is capable of doing something great in this world and being a hero, you don't have to fight in a war to contribute to the progress of our society. She's a hero. 

2. "Due to excessive photo-shopping of the Vogue cover she is going to make transgender people feel as though they need to look a certain way."
NEWSFLASH. Society already has high expectations of what men and women should look like. It doesn't matter what gender you are or if you identify with one at all - everyone faces these expectations daily. Her choosing to pose on that cover isn't so she can prove she's the hottest transgender woman, it's simply to say "Look at me world. I'm finally who I was meant to be all along and I am feeling great about it." Instead of commenting on what she's wearing or how much make-up she has on, look at that amazing smile on her face (even if it was touched up) and admire how genuine it is. Admire how happy this woman is to finally feel like she is who she is meant to be and allow it to inspire people. Don't try to drag it down just because it's been enhanced just like every other goddamn photo. She's beautiful inside and out, we all are.

3. "Another rich, famous person buying their way to look how they want. Another publicity stunt."
Oh, because if you were rich and didn't feel comfortable in your own skin you wouldn't choose to use money to help you feel better? Oh wait you wouldn't know unless you're her that's right. Let's be real, even if you are 100% complacent with your looks, if you had the opportunity to enhance them (or in this case completely transform them) let's not assume that you would automatically say no. You never know what you would do in someone's situation because you aren't them - plain and simple. God creates everyone in His image, but that doesn't mean by changing our looks we are defying God. We are simply becoming who we feel God intended for us to be. If that means getting a pair of boobs, then so be it. And as far as this being a publicity stunt you can just sit back down. The reality is, even if Caitlyn isn't doing this with a pure heart with the hope of helping society, she doesn't have to be. She is still creating a wave of inspiration that can't be denied. Just because actions don't always come from a place of selflessness does not mean they cannot still benefit others.

At the end of the day Caitlyn can now rest a little easier knowing she isn't a woman trapped in a man's body anymore. She is free to be herself, express herself as she pleases, and identify with the gender to which she truly belongs. Who are you to tell her who she should be? She's Caitlyn. So get the hell over it already.

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