Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Mr. Least Expected

People always tell me, "You'll meet someone when you least expect it." I always roll my eyes and accept their advice as if I haven't heard it a thousand times already since becoming single. I can't say it's been easy, and I won't pretend like I haven't seen or spent time with different people along the way. But nobody really stuck around long enough to leave a positive impression. Either they didn't want to make the commitment, or I didn't have enough interest in them to bother. At least, until now.

I'm kind of scared to admit that I might have found someone worthwhile. Someone who makes me nervous for all the right reasons. Someone who enables me to be the authentic, bold version of myself who I've grown to love so much. Someone who never tells me I talk too much, but instead loves the fact that I do. Someone who calls me endearing - an adjective with which I had never even considered to describe myself (truthfully, I didn't even know what it meant before I met him). 

Before this I had been having the worst luck with guys and quite frankly was sick of even trying. I had become so fed up with everyone and everything about dating that I just didn't see the point anymore. But then I met him, and I couldn't help but think to myself that he might be different. He's respectful, ambitious, and direct - something I'm not used to. I suppose at some point I admitted to myself that he's the Mr. Least Expected that everyone had been telling me about.

Now, I'm no stranger to the reality that this could all end up a big bust and I could run home crying to my mom, but at least now I know that the advice I had been given wasn't a total load of crap. I really did meet someone special when I wasn't really trying to.

There is no part of the advice that says that person will be "the one" or any other type of guarantee that might make you feel more at ease about starting a new relationship with someone, but it's not supposed to. What fun would life be if everything was guaranteed? So even if Mr. Least Expected becomes just another name on the list of Mr. It-Just-Didn't-Work-Out's, it's still wonderful to know I met someone when I least expected it.

Saturday, May 9, 2015

Super Woman

I remember it pretty fondly. It was this old, navy sweat jacket (as my mom calls them - although most would yell at me and tell me it's a zip-up - whatever the hell that is). She used to wear it all the time. I remember one night when she headed off to work she didn't wear it and I curled up in it waiting for her return. It felt good to try on Super Woman's cape while she was off being even more super somewhere else. Although the sweat jacket became worn out, the woman who wore it is even stronger than she was the first day she put it on.

My mother is one of the most incredible people to which I can say I am related. She wins the award every year for most likely to tell you when you're being too selfish, settling for less than you deserve, making a dumb decision, or when you're doing all three at the same time (and she will proceed to prove how that's possible). She is right 99% of the time. And even though I only follow her advice roughly 70% of the time, she still openly provides it.

My mom lives by the motto "I'm not your best friend; I'm your mother." As I started getting older and we started to have a more adult relationship, I wanted to argue otherwise. I mean, she tells me when my lipstick is tacky, we laugh about what people in Walmart are wearing (or worse, what people think they can wear when they aren't at Walmart), we share stories, shoes, and clothes (some of which I don't think she always enjoys sharing, yet she does). I think somewhere along the line my mother seemed like a best friend, but I think it only seems that way not because she actually is a best friend, but because she's the best kind of mother.

She saves you when you need saving, but makes sure that you first try to save yourself. She won't help you with your homework until you've tried all of the other problems first because she wants you to know that one bout of discouragement shouldn't keep you from doing the best that you can. She doesn't rush to the store to buy your favorite food when you come home to visit because she taught you enough about independence that you've probably been eating it the whole time you were away. She treats you and all of your siblings equally, but not the same, and by the time you're old enough to recognize there is a difference you will also understand why she does it.

I have heard some of my mother's stories. I have been an eyewitness to many of her trials with which God has challenged her. And each and every time she approached them with such bravery and determination. I am sure she had moments of weakness, as we all do, but in the end she has been victorious and I could not be more proud to call someone of her character my mother. She isn't superhuman, just an amazing and beautifully flawed individual. She loves me, and whether or not we have always been able to get along there was never a doubt in my mind about that.

Happy Mother's Day, Mom!